My Story

Tears rolled down my face as my inner critic whispered, ‘you’re not good enough, there’s something wrong with you’. ‘If only you were better, things would be different’.

​

The pain of rejection from a whirlwind romance left me heartbroken. I noticed a pattern of rejection in relationships, although in the past, I had often ended them feeling unfulfilled, unheard or disrespected.

Rejection hit me hard & I realised something was hidden from my view. Despite a few years of reading self help books & listening to experts, the answer remained out of reach. Here I was, 40 years old & single, unable to grasp the fulfilling relationship that seemed effortless for others.

​

In desperation, I sought the help of a coach that changed everything. My eyes opened, revealing that I’d spent my life living in a cage, trapped by fear, expectations of who I should be & how I should live my life.

​

Every action & every decision was based on gaining the approval of others. I thought pleasing everyone & being perfect would protect me from rejection, shame, embarrassment & other painful emotions.

​

I was wrong! I was attempting to control the world from a place of fear, striving for perfection, overthinking, giving too much, avoiding conflict, adapting to what others wanted & continually judging myself. The self imposed prison of people pleasing had disconnected me from others & most tragically, severed the connection with my true self.

​

I didn’t know what I truly wanted, who I really was or how I felt. My voice had been silenced & I could only express what others thought I should want, feel & be. This led to patterns in relationships, where I didn't express my true feelings, built resentment & felt unheard. Or I tried so hard to be perfect that people couldn't see the real me & rejected me.

​

As I unravelled my relational patterns & reconnected with my true self, something amazing happened! I learned to love myself & live my life for me. I felt free & calm, for the first time in my life. The critical voice faded & a kind, compassionate voice emerged. I discovered my true identity, thoughts, feelings & effective ways to communicate them.

​

I started setting healthy boundaries to protect my well being & finally felt seen, heard & respected in relationships. I removed my mask & discovered that vulnerability & showing my true self is what creates real connection with others.

​

One of the biggest realisations was that people are responsible for their own feelings. Not everyone will like me & that’s okay. My worth does not depend on any external factors, including others approval.

​

It’s been a journey & continues to be, but life & relationships are so much different, I'm free to be me & feel at peace, knowing I'm my own best friend.

​

I'm now passionate about helping others break free from people pleasing. If this resonates with you, choose yourself, maybe for the first time in your life & let me help you create change. Inner peace, freedom to be yourself, authentic relationships & a life that feels good are waiting for you!